Updated: Feb 15, 2019
It's been a while since I really took the time to really sit down and write when in reality writing is truly an escape for me when it comes to expressing how I feel or really digging into the crevasses of my heart. It was also a tool that I would use (in secrete) when it came to expressing my voice when need be. I guess in today's blog we can call this a life update/ lessons I learned in 2019. Personally, I don't know about you but 2018 was an extremely stretching year for me in every area of my life. From family, my fiances, education, social life you name it. I. WAS. STRETCHED! In addition to all that I had a mental break down as well because the pressure was truly arduous. Yet, as I write to you today I can testify and say that God has been extramural faithful. That being said, I think it's only fair that I share with you my the life lessons that enabled me to have a different perspective as I transitioned into 2019.
1. TRUST GOD!
Y'all... Les Amis (friends in French) this was truly imperative for me in that season and I think in every season when it comes to our relationship with the Lord. Our trust in Him will keep us afloat when all else seems to fail. In 2018 I was so caught up in everything that was not going the way I saw fit and I failed at having a posture of surrender. This was a hard truth for me to grasp because I was not in the truth at that point in my life. It was truly a humbling season for me because the minute I chose to humble myself and surrender to the Lord all my cares and burdens everything shifted in for His glory. Stepping down from Le New Chapter was purely due to the fact that I had to re-calibrate my position and focus when it came to where I was in my life and when it came to the future of this platform. I didn't want to be in a position where I was addressing and sharing advice that I myself was not abiding by. I had to learn the importance of eating the same food that I was feeding others. I was going to church and doing the motions of what a good worship leader needed to do but in reality, I was dying because I was not resourcing myself in the presence of God and most importantly I was not trusting Him. Yet, the funny thing is that I was being told that my work was blessing other yet I myself I was drowning in my efforts to "make it". But I bless God because where I was a few months ago is not where I am today!
2. Putting Your Best Foot Forward
Yes it's easier said then done but here is the good news... it's doable. It just requires you to have grit as one surmounts the issues of life that literally can drain us all. The older I get I notice that an effort is required in all that we do even if the thing that we are trying to tackle looks simple when it comes to conquering it. Action and effort with a mentality of excellence is something that should be implemented with every step that we take. Only because with every step that we take we understand we will eventually step into a new season (that's a word for somebody!!!). I had to make up my mind and really own up to the whole "walking by faith and not by sight" saying because it was one of the tools that enabled me to have a bright view in the season that I was in. Also, it was also an imperative actuality that I needed to implement as a lifestyle and to be quite honest it enabled me to get to a season of contentment and self-appreciation.
3. Perspective Is Everything!
The Oxford dictionary defines perspective as a particular attitude toward something; a way of thinking about something. Synonym - viewpoint. Now, this is truly the cherry that I would like to add to the lessons that I encountered in 2018. I truly failed to renew my mind in regards to the certain circumstances that took place in my life in 2018 and for me that's a total shame but also many lessons learned. I would have a negative outlook on everything! Blaming others for my shortcoming and never really owning up to to what I needed to own up to also, not really looking at what God and inquiring with Him in regards to what was teaching me. Just a mess ..... Listen, the pain was real but a very good friend of mine once told me that there is the purpose in pain. That being said, if we don't develop a certain pain tolerance to certain issues we end succumbing to the ache that comes with pain. This can evolve in resentment, depression anxiety and all the emotional discomfort that comes with the package of having a negative point of view. I had to shift my mindset and stop looking at discomfort as a portion that has been destined to destroy me but as a tool that would enable to acquire knowledge, wisdom, and insight into how God would get all the glory from the situation that I considered as a mess. Yet, here is the plot twist that made me really consider the magnitude of how God is truly above everything. Only because he has the ability to turn a messy season into a message of encouragement for others. He has this thing that he does when when He turn ashes into beauty. I was in a very ashy (<--- LOL!!!) season yet I'm now trusting the process and really enjoying the season that I am in right now. We bless God.
Love yourself in every season (the good and the bad) that you are in. As a cliche, as it might sound, it is truly something that we forget to do when we find ourselves in situations that are mind combusting. I started to implement self-care in my life by making sure that I would do things that made me happy. For instance, going out and getting a manicure when I needed one. Making sure I would interact with God and with the people that I truly love, reading a book or simply taking a nap. In addition to all that, I got to a point where I was so content because I knew for a fact that the season I was in was not my final destination. I knew that I one day I would share my story and my victories. I knew that God had so much more in store for me hence I was no longer willing to sell myself short. Also, when we fail to take care of ourselves we won't have the ability to take care of the people that are around us and we will eventually fail when it comes to the assignment that has been ordained for us.
So as you read this today I really hope that you've been encouraged to really hone into the season that God has set you in. Remember, nothing in life is easy but there is so much joy when we can really look back at the chapters of our life and see the manifestation of God on every page and in every chapter. Here is to a new year!
So be encouraged!